Does finding the balance between different aspects of life gets easier to achieve with age? I ask because I am yet to completely master the act of balance in its totality.
Often times, I find myself devoting more time in one aspect of my life than the other–neglecting one and attending more to another. Life, currently, is out of balance and I am trying to bring it back to equilibrium. With that in mind, it begs the question; will life ever be balanced? Can one ever achieve a balanced life?
The worst of it all, is when those around you guilt-trip you for spending much time with your aspirations than you do with them—the never-ending “you forgot about me,” “I don’t hear from you anymore,” “you no long have my time,” “you’re never around,” and on and on the list goes.
When I have so much to achieve, I sometimes unintentionally and unconsciously neglect (not completely) part of my life that “doesn’t” need more attention while dedicating (almost) all of my time to the current wave sailing my ship. It is a challenge I am constantly mentally working on. Sometimes, I am able to find and maintain the balance, other times unforeseen events comes in and disrupt the balance. Then there are times when I am the one creating the imbalance and not outside forces–not because I want to but because there is a part of my life that demands my utmost undivided attention.
I have often heard the saying “your young years are your years to be selfish,” but to what expense? When you purposefully neglect other areas of your life in exchange for devotion to your goals and aspiration are you not hurting those areas in the long run?
How do you find balance when you have so much going on that needs to be achieved? How do you find balance between family, school, friends, partner, and self? And if one must “suffer” how do you decide which suffer–is it a conscious decision?
No matter how chaotic life gets, effective communication to loved ones and understanding and support from loved ones makes all the difference. Lack of such can lead to the demise of the relationship, ultimately. Most importantly, no matter how chaotic life gets, your mind, body, & soul should never suffer from self neglect.
May God help us! Amen.