Have you ever encountered that one friend that daily kept on pouring and pouring and pouring and pouring and pouring so much heavy, deep, dark, and reoccurring events about their life struggles on you that you eventually became overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted? How did you deal with it? Did you confront them about it? Ran away from them? Or simply kept on taking it all in?
In this day and age where depression is rampant, it is usually encouraged to be a listening ear to friends and loved ones that table their troubles before thee. I agree, absolutely, that it’s imperative that we be there for loved ones in their time of needs. But, hear me out, what happens when this said individual constantly spew at you the same complaint over and over and over again with no desire of engineering a plan to alleviate the condition?
A friend of mine came to me asking: her classmate will not stop talking about the same problem over and over again. Even after offering ways and ideas to combat the situation it was all to no avail. It has gotten so worse, she suggested a therapist since there’s only so much her limited knowledge about counseling could solve. My friend confess to being emotionally exhausted and lacking focus to study. At the same time, she doesn’t know how to disengage without her classmate feeling abandoned.
How do you draw boundaries with loved ones when they’ve designated you as the sole person to constantly vent to? How do you protect yourself from subconsciously taking in all that’s been thrown at you?
When is enough enough?
What would you do? Please do share with me. I look forward to your responses.
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